One last tid bit for the day.  We are equally responsible for our children, right?  How come we are only entitled to two weekends a month?  Is that equal?  How come I had no choice on my cheating ex walking out?  How come I didn't get to keep my children?

Don't give me this equality crap.  It was no longer equal when the ex decided to walk out.  They wanted to see the greener side of the grass, and well, did they?  No.  Just realized that they *ed up and can't make it in their own, so support me, support my kid and my home.  I would gladly have my children live with me anytime, anywhere.  If the ex can't support them give them to me I will.

Yea i think the equality thing needs to be considered.Every other weekend compared to the mother having the child the rest of the month..this is not fair. I want to ask a judge thatr is a father..How do you find this amount of time spent with each parent fair? My fiance and I want to see his daughter all the time but his ex holds a jealous gradge and some onths we see his daughter once some months not at all. This b**** wants her money and wants to put his daughter on us only when it is convenient for her. This is not fair. We could like to gain custody of his daughter, but the system does not care about dads. Even if the dad always pays child supprt and is in school, the military and has a stable job. We have been fightin his ex for years and it has not gotten better. She even remarried and is pregnant with another kid right now and is still giving us hell. We dont know what to do.He has a lawyer but he is not doing a damn thing either, he keeps twelling us he is waiting on the court and her lawyer. Its been over a year anf a half. What the hell is taking so long to finalize the custody and child support payments. He was ordered to pay 900 dollars for one child!! that is ridiculous.. he was working offshore at the time, but he has another child that he pays child support for and many other living expenses the court does not take into consideration. He quit that job to go back to school and join the military to be able to be there more for his kids and try to set ip a better future for them. But no the court does not see this .they look at him and say u could be making more so you should be paying more. What kind of judge will look down on someone for joining the miltary and going back to school. This system needs a severe makeover. The system is making us want to give up on fighting to see his daughter, but we could never do that to her. The sad thing is if the mom does not let him see her now..his daughter will only hate the mom later and be emotionally screwed up. His daughter did not ask to be born and now she is caught in the middle and the mom has no concern for her daughter she is using her to get to us, it is wiorking but what she diesnt realize is that she is hurting her daughter just as much. She seems to think that her new man will take my fiances place.A child needs theri own moyther and father just as much as step paretns. She has already asked for him to give up his custody..Never!. We will keep fightin but if anyone can be of any help to get our voices heard please help...Concernced parents

hi there,

 

i have been paying for child support for a while now, the bad thing is that i was still living with her(lived with her for more than 3 years)  when i was still paying this, the sad thing is that now she says i dont give her enough my current has been 400.00 per month plus medical insurance of 190.00 per month,  and she wants to take me to court for this. even sad is that the child support agency in this state has been giving me the run around about this case and all i want is to know how much am i in arrears for ( i got injured on the job and i stopped making these for about 6 months) and says she was supposed to fill out some paperwork to report that she was living with me and she had to inform to stop the support which in her way never did. i think that the government should do something about these mothers who abuse the system in fact it should be seen that the kids are the ones who spend this money or set up a trust fund in which these payments are deposited into i am not saying to not make the payment,  but to stop this to make a trust fund for the kids so they can go to school or what ever they need this money when they grow up meanwhile make these women actually work. not just sit around waiting to collect and say they dont receive this payment the good thing about this is that i voluntarily signed up to have this taken from my pay each paycheck and i or they have a record of this. furthermore, is that i still make my payments and now i have the custody of 2 of the 3 kids i make support for and recently i was notified that she gave birth to her 5th child! this is scary because this tells me she does this for the money, and not for interest of these children, i dont care what she does just to be taught a lesson in which she sees that the kids are people too.as i had mentioned before this is not a sob story in which some women who read this might think just a father wanting justice for this action also each year she wants to claim them for income tax when i have been the one

supporting them and have legal documents signed by her in stating that she does not want to take care of the two oldest because she now has family and she doesn't want to lose this man,

can you dig this?

lets revamp the child support laws in this country.

i agree with u we as men need2 get 2getha and form an alliance against the law makers on n.c.p. paying support we are leting them do us like crap. united we can change things divided the law run over us so what u gona do im paying 4 kids that aint mine i showed up 4 court every time except 1 time ,i quickly went2 j.c. and asked4 another date and showed up she never showed 4 court so they claimed i did'nt show they ligitimated the child i cant get my taxes im homeless cuz its on my credit report i cant get my d.l.s and they told me once i proove them wrong i gota sue her 2get my money back they aint responible but they're the a.holes who took my money and gave it 2her. i work hard im in the air on different hight buildings. im a commercial roofer, they need2 send theese females 2jail that file knowing the guy is not their child(rens)dad and support should'nt start til after a dna test is positive and if the guy in question aint around or did'nt show4 court they should'nt ligitimate the child they should just warrant they ass2 court they do it when u do'nt pay do it 2 find out the paternity,2keep confusion down,i gota eat and pay bills so i have no choice but 2drive on suspended d.l.s im going 2jail either way if i pay or not then i would b out of a job out of my friends house n back in jail i do'nt have no 1but me my friends d.l.s gone 4the same reason i cant do a bus they do'nt always go places im working on. so lets try n get every1 2getha 2meet up discuss,come up with a plan,and get a petition going 2establish some rules and regulations 2this problem cuz my best friend is married and he's paying c.s. and his wife and him stay in the same house and he's constantly running down 2j.c. they aint trying 2hear him how i c it a woman only incabates feed, and give birth men have the babys stored in their testies the egg 2me is a firtilizing incabation,growing chamber true what is 1 without the other but the system has fdup alot of females with this c.s. crap cuz real women do'nt operate like that. government officials should'nt charge us for them assisting females that should b on them(the government) all the innocent blood the have been spilling and still spilling over the years in this stolen country they killed,raped,and played the native americans out of.

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corey thurman

im a victem2 my comrad, lets get 2getha and form an alliance against the system 2getha u me and the rest of our team can change things 2getha divided they're always gona run over us im not a yellow line or a white line and im tired of being the street they run over every daywhat are we gona do cry about it or riot about it we make the country run we're america's work horse we need some act right arond here and we deffinately need2 teach our up coming leaders about what's going on so they stand a chance out in this cold cruel world.email me at wyundaimontana@yahoo.com past this adress 2 any and every 1 willing2 come 2getha n make something happen im serious!!! when we get enuff guys 2getha we're gona meet up and discus ,come up with a plan,and get a petition going aint we tired of being treated like crap.

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corey thurman

are u really ready2 do something about this unfair treatment we n.c.p.s are going thru lets form an alliance against the system we make this ship sail email me at wyundaimontana@yahoo.com past this 2 any and every 1 ready and willing 2 fight back if we come 2getha about this problem things are and will change lets meet up form an alliance get petitions going find and fund legal representation cuz this has 2stop. i look forward2 meeting u n the rest of the child support team we need 1 another 2make this change happen cuz we're being treated very unfair.

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corey thurman

wuzup my child support team mate, yeeaaaah lets do just that revamp this problem email me at wyundaimontana@yahoo.com past this 2every1 and any1 ready and willing 2fight back, 2getha u me and the rest of the c.s. team can change things so lets meet up form an alliance get a petition going find and fund legal representation we need 1another 4this 2work we're gona come up with a plan we're gona make history with this action they're treating us very unfair aint we tired of this well lets do something about it then lets play chess!!!

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corey thurman

tired:

I did nothing wrong except spend every penny I had saved on attorneys.  Since then, we have both been homeless.  Lost our right to drive (got mine back) and he was placed on "0" tolerance for child support payments.  He has had no work in over a month, reduction is not an option and he owes $900 tomorrow.  He's going to jail.  Oh ya, did I mention he is on a year probation for driving to work under a suspended license?  Gotta love the system.  We are about to be homeless again.  If you pay, your screwed, if you don't your screwed.  And in the end, the kids are screwed.

This is of course the short of it all, we've tried everything to no avail.  The system sucks

Oh, did I mention I've spent the last two days trying to talk him out of committing suicide?  That's our system at work.

Cheaters don't deserve their children.  And X's don't deserve our money.  I will pay for my child's food, clothing, extras directly.  I do NOT need someone telling me what to pay. 

We already have one friend who did shoot himself due to the stress of support.  When will they get it through their skulls that their system is flawed and it need to change

Tired,
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I can picture the problems you've been suffering now. I don't think that suicide can solve the problem, but it can make things worse. What's more problematic is that the children could suffer from the mess that your ex has been to.

The  <a href=http://www.divorceguide.com/free-divorce-advice/children-and-divorce/what-effect-does-a-divorce-have-on-a-child.html>effect of divorce on children</a> is long-term. So instead of talking about suicide, you’d better reflect on things and pay attention to the kids. Child support is not an obligation to the law, but an obligation to our children.