New law goes into effect immediately:
All kids of split parents get to have both parents shackled in a room and get to beat them with a shoe til they are satisfied.

I think you totally missed my point, and the reply was just a snide comment, maybe thats WHY you are in the situation you are in..

What situation is that?

ok so my ? what about the father who is the non custodial parent of a wife who left with the 2 kids ages 5 and 11 and whom is now engaged while still married, refuses to work. Kids are on welfare father has to pay child support of 194 a week plus half medical. she is taking him back to court cause hes now making more money and she feels she gets more now. what happens if he works a second job? ps. he visits every weekend friday-sunday.

Dixie:

I think there are just as many bad mothers as there are bad fathers. However, more focus needs to be put on the children. I have a 7 year old child support order, and have been raising my daughter alone since she was 2. I have to make my yearly trips to Juvenile Court, that do nothing but cost me money, because he never pays. I am owed over $46,000 in child support, I have to go back to court Nov. 30th and I can already give you a play by play of what will happen. NOTHING, other me missing more work. Juvenile Court serves no purpose. If you parent a child you should be prepared for everything that goes with it including child support. Parents need to work on their interpersonal relationships, and grow up. I would trade every penny of the $46,000 I am owed, just to have him be the father he was suppose to be. The children get caught in the middle of things they shouldn't have to worry about. The custodial parent shouldn't have to answer questions about why their mom or dad isn't around, or have to explain why there isn't enough money for the toy, they are dying to have. When people decide to part ways you may stop loving that person, but not the child. ITS NOT ABOUT THE ADULTS, ITS ABOUT THE CHILD. Alot of children have been dealt a raw hand in life, and yes non-custodial parents on occasion do to. All we can do is be there for our children and keep them out of grown up crossfires, sometimes one or the other parent needs to wave the white flag, and be the parents they chose to be before it all went bad. For every dad paying child support, sometimes maybe more than they should, remember there are moms like me out there who have never received a dime.

You are such a lying ***, just like the rest of these bitter cold hearted cunts. True Jezebel whores on there way to hell. Burn you *** lying snakes. "Oh I would trade all the money in the world" haha Yeah right. Its been proven you're all nothing but prostitutes, all seeking power and money and security cause you're to coward to take your own responsibility. Raise the fuckin kid dumbass and quit your fuckin bitchin. You wanted the kid so bad raise them and shut the *** up. What ever happened to the day when a child was suppose to be a blessing to you *** loser whores? You say you would trade all the money if he would just be the dad you think he was suppose to be, clearly shows the world just how *** evil you really are. You want the truth you lying snake, heres the truth, You're a selfish prostitute who says what makes you feel good today because you know he wanted nothing to do with your skanky evil unloyal ***. If the money was less important, and you really cared about your child before your selfish desires, You would right him off and cut the snakes head off, giving the government no power to control him, maybe then he'd see you did him a favor and be more privileged to help out, cause dads are damn sure not helped out in any way the minute you *** cunts sick the law on them. How dare any of you even come close to accusing a man of being a criminal and using this corrupt government to abuse a father then turn it around on him saying he's not a good person, simply because HE CANT AFFORD YOUR PATHETIC CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENT!!!  You're so *** evil, you have no idea what is waiting for you in eternity do you? You think because you had a kid that you are bound for eternal blessing? think again. You're just as evil if not more evil, than any father who decided your to *** psycho to deal with any longer. *** YOU AND *** THIS GOVERNMENT! GOD DAMN  ALL YOU LYING WHORES TO HELL!

gma55:

All we hear about non custodial dads is they run out on their kids.  How about the dads who DO pay their support, but are treated like red headed step children by the court system.  They can't deduct the support payments on their taxes.  Yet if there is a Step Dad in the picture he gets all the tax breaks.  They can have a large income and the poor guy gets taken to the cleaners. They are driving around in cars that the child support pays for and the kids get neglected.  All the kids are to Step Dad is a source of income.  I know it is not supposed to come up in court as to the reason for the divorce.  But you have cheating women who cry to the system about their husband's leaving them.  Dad assuming that Mom is going to do right by the children, especially if they are girls and then DON"T.  Mom's partying up a storm, maybe at the casinos, spending the child support money!!!  Then there is no way to get the kids out of the house unless she can be proven unfit.  But if you call DHS, they call first to make an appointment, tipping off the Mom!!!

Mom's are given the benefit of the doubt in the courts.  Putting on the tears, the pitiful looks and wearing their everday clothes so they look abandonded.  Oh, precious mom, can do no wrong.  Hey just because they gave birth doesn't make them maternal.

I have been on both ends of this system.  Being pitiful and leaving the dad out the childrens lives only comes back to bite mom in the butt as resentment when the children grow up.

Something needs to be done to review these cases on a regular basis at NOT at the financial and emotional expense of the Dad.  Mom's who recieve child support should be held accountable for how the money is being spent.

 

These dumb lying whores. They're all the same. You know when grama use to say, "find yourself a good girl, the one that doesnt get around" Well she wasnt talking about any of these girls I know this now, to bad I didnt listen to BOTH of my grandmothers! I'm a dad who has struggled paying child support because the payment was way to high to begin with. I got raped from the courts, now I'm constantly being threatened jail time when I cant always go way out of my way to show up for court because of work I get a warrant,  and when I am between jobs there is no excuse for making a little less of a payment than usually ordered. So all these women can go *** themseves and I smile when you get *** cancer for your own fuckin bitterness that you constantly throw towards the men! Yeah most of the guys are bitter, but not near as bitter as you cunts. Sending someone to jail and calling them a criminal is just one act of proof of just how unforgiving you cunts are and you have no reason to be unforgiving if you want children so bad, I thought a child was suppose to be a blessing to you hating mothers? If thats true, why is money all you cunts think about? Go on welfare, you fuckin losers, You already depend on the government as it is, why not get a food card. And God knows the majority of your family is there for your lying *** when you need help, so go cry in the fuckin closet you lying cunts! All these prostitutes is the PRIMARY REASON WHY FATHERS SAY ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! And honestly all you dumb bitches think you're getting away with murder, well if you really cared about your children, you would watch who the *** you're pushing in the corner more closely. Any person is perfectly capable of taking the law into their own hands when they have had enough of your lies and the systems corruption.  And from what I've been reading online,  many people are imagining you to be dropped off in the middle of the ocean with a weight tied to your ankles. So tell me again you care about your children when you rape a man in court. PLEASE TELL ME ANOTHER LIE! Please, entertain me. Its funny how close you can be to meeting your maker and not even know it, and then you say you "love". You dont have a fuckin clue what love is!
You should be counting your blessings and move on! God damn you all to hell!

My story is almost exactly the same.  My ex-wife started having an affair with her current husband while our daughter was in the hospital having major surgery.  The night she was suppose to pick her up she called the hospital and postponed it for a day.  When I found out I went to the hospital and got her out.

My ex-wife spent the night with her current husband.  They were engaged while we were still married.  She spent the night with the man that she was having an affair with and even brought my youngest daughter with her.

My oldest daughter that had the surgery and I were both worried about her mom and neither on of us could get any sleep.  At a recent trial Dr Pollock of Houston declared that Rita was a good mother.  What BS he has only seen her two or three times in his life.

When I confronted my ex-wife about her afair, I caught her red handed she left claiming I was abusing her.  I could go on and on and just get more depressed.  

She has lied and got away with it four 18 years.  I tried to get justice and I got thrown in jail and I am now 100,000.00 in debt.  The judge believed her lie that her lawyer and she told.  We even had proof that her attorney lied to the judge.  Where is the justice? 

I'm sorry that you are one of the women who doesn't get assistance from your childs father. I have a great husband that takes care of his responsibilities and pays a substantial amount in child support. His babys mother is a money hungry whore. We tried to be civil and ask to reduce the child support but she will not agree to anything less. We now pay 750.00 a month based on his previous income. He no longer gets paid the same and it is actually more than half since we went to court. My husband has always been in his sons life and we have him half of the time. Who the hell helps us pay for his clothes and entertainment when he is with us? She feels as though she should not have to fork over any money at all to support her son. She is currently married to man that has a child and is on probation for not paying his child support. She should see what advantage she has but all she see's is dollar signs in her eyes. It's sad when you give that much money and he comes over hungry in too small clothes. There should be a law passed to verify what the money is being spent on. Why is there not a law that protects fathers who do want to be in their childs life?

Ok obviously you are a bitter man who now wants a chance to play up his sob story... However in the eyes of the law child support is to help the custodial parent(s) (step-parents included) with the support of the child. End of story. If the mother is off running around partying, gambling ect. that is her business and not the courts. If she was not getting child support and she was still doing those things, the courts see it as she would then be spending all the money on her habbits instead of the kid(s). So now with child support there is money there for her to still support the kids. You can't determine if it's her money going to her habbits or if it's the child support money so monitering that is just stupid. and it doens't matter to them if it's her money supporting the kids and then child support going to gambling or visa vera as long as the kids are being supported. If she was not supporting the kids, the courts would see that as abuse and then she wouldn't even have the kids. The courts are not there to look out for who is getting taken to the cleaners or who has it better, they are there for the children's best interst only. Besides, just because she has the children  doesn't mean she should be soley responsible for supporting them. both parents have the responsibility of doing that, and the only way for them to moniter to make sure the father is doing that is for him to pay what they see fair. And if the children have food and clothing and shoes then that proves too them the mother is doing her job. How she decides to manage her budget is her deal. If the father doesn't feel she is doing a good enough job, then maybe he should get off his *** and take on the responsibility of raising children himself and tell the courts he wants to do that.... Oh and by the way, the more time a father is leagally spending with his children the less money he pays to child support so the amount of money he ends up paying just proves how much he is actually doing for his children, either he can do it physically or fincially. He can take his pick.

Ok obviously you are a bitter man who now wants a chance to play up his sob story... However in the eyes of the law child support is to help the custodial parent(s) (step-parents included) with the support of the child. End of story. If the mother is off running around partying, gambling ect. that is her business and not the courts. If she was not getting child support and she was still doing those things, the courts see it as she would then be spending all the money on her habbits instead of the kid(s). So now with child support there is money there for her to still support the kids. You can't determine if it's her money going to her habbits or if it's the child support money so monitering that is just stupid. and it doens't matter to them if it's her money supporting the kids and then child support going to gambling or visa vera as long as the kids are being supported. If she was not supporting the kids, the courts would see that as abuse and then she wouldn't even have the kids. The courts are not there to look out for who is getting taken to the cleaners or who has it better, they are there for the children's best interst only. Besides, just because she has the children  doesn't mean she should be soley responsible for supporting them. both parents have the responsibility of doing that, and the only way for them to moniter to make sure the father is doing that is for him to pay what they see fair. And if the children have food and clothing and shoes then that proves too them the mother is doing her job. How she decides to manage her budget is her deal. If the father doesn't feel she is doing a good enough job, then maybe he should get off his *** and take on the responsibility of raising children himself and tell the courts he wants to do that.... Oh and by the way, the more time a father is leagally spending with his children the less money he pays to child support so the amount of money he ends up paying just proves how much he is actually doing for his children, either he can do it physically or fincially. He can take his pick.

destroyer:

Dixie:

I think there are just as many bad mothers as there are bad fathers. However, more focus needs to be put on the children. I have a 7 year old child support order, and have been raising my daughter alone since she was 2. I have to make my yearly trips to Juvenile Court, that do nothing but cost me money, because he never pays. I am owed over $46,000 in child support, I have to go back to court Nov. 30th and I can already give you a play by play of what will happen. NOTHING, other me missing more work. Juvenile Court serves no purpose. If you parent a child you should be prepared for everything that goes with it including child support. Parents need to work on their interpersonal relationships, and grow up. I would trade every penny of the $46,000 I am owed, just to have him be the father he was suppose to be. The children get caught in the middle of things they shouldn't have to worry about. The custodial parent shouldn't have to answer questions about why their mom or dad isn't around, or have to explain why there isn't enough money for the toy, they are dying to have. When people decide to part ways you may stop loving that person, but not the child. ITS NOT ABOUT THE ADULTS, ITS ABOUT THE CHILD. Alot of children have been dealt a raw hand in life, and yes non-custodial parents on occasion do to. All we can do is be there for our children and keep them out of grown up crossfires, sometimes one or the other parent needs to wave the white flag, and be the parents they chose to be before it all went bad. For every dad paying child support, sometimes maybe more than they should, remember there are moms like me out there who have never received a dime.

You are such a lying ***, just like the rest of these bitter cold hearted cunts. True Jezebel whores on there way to hell. Burn you *** lying snakes. "Oh I would trade all the money in the world" haha Yeah right. Its been proven you're all nothing but prostitutes, all seeking power and money and security cause you're to coward to take your own responsibility. Raise the fuckin kid dumbass and quit your fuckin bitchin. You wanted the kid so bad raise them and shut the *** up. What ever happened to the day when a child was suppose to be a blessing to you *** loser whores? You say you would trade all the money if he would just be the dad you think he was suppose to be, clearly shows the world just how *** evil you really are. You want the truth you lying snake, heres the truth, You're a selfish prostitute who says what makes you feel good today because you know he wanted nothing to do with your skanky evil unloyal ***. If the money was less important, and you really cared about your child before your selfish desires, You would right him off and cut the snakes head off, giving the government no power to control him, maybe then he'd see you did him a favor and be more privileged to help out, cause dads are damn sure not helped out in any way the minute you *** cunts sick the law on them. How dare any of you even come close to accusing a man of being a criminal and using this corrupt government to abuse a father then turn it around on him saying he's not a good person, simply because HE CANT AFFORD YOUR PATHETIC CHILD SUPPORT PAYMENT!!!  You're so *** evil, you have no idea what is waiting for you in eternity do you? You think because you had a kid that you are bound for eternal blessing? think again. You're just as evil if not more evil, than any father who decided your to *** psycho to deal with any longer. *** YOU AND *** THIS GOVERNMENT! GOD DAMN  ALL YOU LYING WHORES TO HELL!

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"DESTROYER" YOUR THE F*ING LIAR YOU SICK SON OF A ***!!! Oh how does it feel now? you dumb f*ck! yeah I bet your lying out your *** too about your "kid"! your a dude you couldn't possibly be taking care a of kid you pathetic dead beat ***! If you got a thing that dangles between your legs your a f*ing deadbeat loser unfit to have a child alone!!! You need women cuz without women you couldn't take care of children... Yeah I can go around playing that stupid *** too! I can go around calling names and playing this name calling blame game! You are all heartless dumb f*cks obviously too immature to take care of a child. your wives didn't cheat on you it was probably the other way around cuz we all know men are NOTHING but manwhores who can't keep their dicks in their pants, screwing anything that has a pulse. And if your wives did cheat on you (which I can see why, listening to you guys whine like whimpering dogs) it was probably because you didn’t add up. You guys only contribute to this thing cuz your all going around f*ckin a bunch of nasty prostitutes and your pissed off you were too f*ckin stupid to get surgery or to wrap your *** and you ended up knockin them up and now your just out to make these women's lives hell for YOUR stupidity. You, destroyer, I doubt even take care of your child(ren). Your a liar just like you called that woman b4! and just for pure amusement purposes, IF you were to have custody of a child, you probably are a sick child molester, pedophile who doesn't deserve to have children. none of you cry baby "men" on this blog deserve to have children. Men are nothing but child molesting, rapist who can't handle it so you gotta whine about how bad you have it! You can't just be men and own up to your ***!! So how does it feel "destroyer"? to be made a mockery of? You all deserve to be taken out back and shot execution style, you worthless scum. Guys like you guys should be castrated so their is less of a problem in this world, you whiney *** pansies. GROW THE F*CK UP! You’re why women HATE men. You give respectable men a bad f*cking name. You ARE the reason the courts do what you claim they do for women. If I was a judge and had to listen to all this whinney crap all day too, I'd lock you all up and make you pay child support!

In response.....similar situation.  The wife leaves the husband for another man while he is at work one day.  (no signs of this event taking place)  Takes his daughter as well.  Waves child support in the divorce only to apply for welfare later and of course without hesitation, child support jumps in and orders support.  Not too bad, just a couple hundred a month.

Now, he has a child with another woman previous to this.  The last time he sees him he was 6 years old.  He is now 14.  Between both children is ordered to pay $900 a month.

His income is only about $1500 a month.  Rent is $440. 

His fiance, me, also has to pay support in the amount of $300 a month.  Because after the ex left me for another woman, I had asked a favor of him.  Can you take the girls for a week or two so I can find a place, get moved and settled, they need to start school and since I'm unsure of where I am moving, it makes sense to do this temporarily.  My girls haven't lived with me since.  Because, of course, I do meth.  Truthfully, have never touched a drug a day in my life.  But because he said so, it was taken as gospel.  I then I to pay out extra for "supervised visitation" at $20 an hour.  I now haven't seen my girls in almost 3 years and they are allowed no contact with any of my family (ordered by their father)

I did nothing wrong except spend every penny I had saved on attorneys.  Since then, we have both been homeless.  Lost our right to drive (got mine back) and he was placed on "0" tolerance for child support payments.  He has had no work in over a month, reduction is not an option and he owes $900 tomorrow.  He's going to jail.  Oh ya, did I mention he is on a year probation for driving to work under a suspended license?  Gotta love the system.  We are about to be homeless again.  If you pay, your screwed, if you don't your screwed.  And in the end, the kids are screwed.

This is of course the short of it all, we've tried everything to no avail.  The system sucks

Oh, did I mention I've spent the last two days trying to talk him out of committing suicide?  That's our system at work.

Cheaters don't deserve their children.  And X's don't deserve our money.  I will pay for my child's food, clothing, extras directly.  I do NOT need someone telling me what to pay. 

We already have one friend who did shoot himself due to the stress of support.  When will they get it through their skulls that their system is flawed and it need to change?

Sorry, spouting off.  Not making much sense at this point.  But you get the picture.

 

 

And your the type of woman who gives women like me a bad name.  I PAY SUPPORT.  I know how men are treated in the system.  Just so happened, HE cheated and left ME.  A faithful stay at home mom AND he took my kids with him.

It's women like you that screw it up for men AND women on a daily basis.  Until you've been there, SHUT your mouth and get a reality check.

I NEVER expected support out of my ex.  If he couldn't do it, he couldn't do it. And if he didn't WANT to do, whatever, his choice, his loss, get over it.

But how can it be called "child support" if the women are blowing it on things that do NOT pertain to the child.  Partying and living it up while the kids at a sitters, is not where I want my money to be.

These are not all just "sob stories" but realities.  We wouldn't be paying out $1200 a month for our children if we were all still together.  What child, on average, uses $900-$1200 dollars a month?

His ex got the support raised, sold her modest $50,000 home, quit her job, her new husband works part time, and bought a new $100,000 home in which we make the $800 a month payment for them.  Justice?  What's right?  That's bull!  Meanwhile, we are about to be homeless, because we cannot afford to pay $440 a month for rent.  We both work very very hard.  We are not dead beats, but we are well below poverty guidelines due to child support.

So yes, what the custodial parent does in their own time, if VERY much my business!

 

 

 Oh and by the way, the more time a father is leagally spending with his children the less money he pays to child support so the amount of money he ends up paying just proves how much he is actually doing for his children, either he can do it physically or fincially. He can take his pick.

 

What a crock!  My fiance had his daughter every weekend, 3 days a week after school, vacations, holidays, whenever he could.  Visitation had nothing to do with child support payment.  You are sadly misinformed and mistaken. 

Trade places with your ex for a year, see why we are all pissed off.  Then come back and tell us how it works until then, you are ignorant of the realities if the system.